It is very dangerous to assume that you know what a right choice is for others.
Most parents make the mistake of assuming they are more capable of "right" choices than kids. the reality is that kids are far more capable than adults for they have much less baggage and a cleaner more focused perspective.
Being a parent is a wonderful opportunity to RE-consider life, perspective, choice and possibilities.
I have a very powerful story please read it.
When my mom was pregnant with me she had plans to go back to work and to put me in school. It was when I was born that she realized I was infinite potential and that it was an opportunity to experience life through fresh, alive, and free eyes rather than FEAR, DOUBT, LIMIT, RESTRICTION, RULES
She then knew she would not be going back to work nor would I be going to school unless I so happened to want that. She then told my dad her realization and decision. She said you can either support, and nurture this process or you can choose a different life with different people.
Having kids is not playing house with dolls. These are people who will enjoy and be benefited by freedom. If you have problems with your husband find a way to enjoy each other or just agree to be together as far as the kids are concerned.
Everyone has baggage, fear, doubt, and misery loves company. That is why having a child is such a wonderful divine blessing of new life not just for the child but for the parents.
It is OK. There is nothing we have to be and even if you choose to control your kids life or allow there lives to be controlled by someone else, forgiveness always exists. The reality is that living a life in freedom is far more enjoyable. Its not about doing it because its right or if you dint you are wrong. Its about doing it because it feels good, and why keep living in a way that doesn't.
Showing posts with label ability. Show all posts
Showing posts with label ability. Show all posts
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Monday, April 6, 2009
Do what you love, Love what you do
Follow your bliss, Do what you love, Love what you do. Without this life isn't much worth living. Focus on whats important rather than whats expected, right, wrong, better, or worse. There is NOTHING we have to be and EVERYTHING is possible.
We are capable of finding enjoyment in life. We just need freedom to engage and it will naturally come. If it doesn't then that's how it is and it will change when it does. If its not flowing then consider a new path.
Blessings
We are capable of finding enjoyment in life. We just need freedom to engage and it will naturally come. If it doesn't then that's how it is and it will change when it does. If its not flowing then consider a new path.
Blessings
Thursday, April 2, 2009
To Each Our Own
I don't feel like you can "make any one fulfilled" I don't feel like it is something worth trying to do either.
I also don't think enforcement of rules such as bed times or brushing of teeth is a healthy abundant path. I think talking about aspects of life is healthy and that if parents go to bed at a certain time that respect for there sleep time is important. There is a big difference between saying this is when we go to bed and so you have to too and we are going to bed so being quiet is a given so as the sleep time is peaceful. There is a big difference between saying I enjoy getting up in the morning so I have a full bright day to get things done and saying if you don't get up in the morning you wont get anything done, its important and you have to. So this same philosophy applies to everything I think. This is how it is for me you choose how it is for you and we respect each others differences and help each other out with whats important for us. Support not babying. Respect not enforcement.
Blessings!
Quinn
I also don't think enforcement of rules such as bed times or brushing of teeth is a healthy abundant path. I think talking about aspects of life is healthy and that if parents go to bed at a certain time that respect for there sleep time is important. There is a big difference between saying this is when we go to bed and so you have to too and we are going to bed so being quiet is a given so as the sleep time is peaceful. There is a big difference between saying I enjoy getting up in the morning so I have a full bright day to get things done and saying if you don't get up in the morning you wont get anything done, its important and you have to. So this same philosophy applies to everything I think. This is how it is for me you choose how it is for you and we respect each others differences and help each other out with whats important for us. Support not babying. Respect not enforcement.
Blessings!
Quinn
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Infinite Potential
Children are capable from birth of dealing with large tasks and taking responsibility. It is the parents that are not used to allowing this. When a child is born it is pure potential and just because it cant feed it self doesn't mean it doesn't know what it wants or that it inst already taking on huge tasks. In fact being born is quite a task.
When you think you are in charge of a children decisions I highly recommend re considering that.
It is precisely this concept that separates me from most schooled children and many home schooled children. I always decided what was important and how I chose to go about doing that. I decided when to go to bed and when to get up, I decided when to brush my teeth and when not to. I decided if I wanted to spend the night at a friends and for how long it would be, I decided when I wanted to go to school or collage and what age I wanted to. I decided when I wanted to try alcohol, I decided when I wanted to try smoking, I decided when I wanted to have sex. I was constantly shouldering responsibility and making choices. This is why when I go over to a friends house the parents always tell my parents "your child is so helpful, or your child is so easy to have over" I was on month long vacations away from home by age 11. I was interested in cigarettes when I was 10. Me and my brother/sister would find old cigarette buts and pretend to smoke them. My mom decided that she would rather buy us a pack than have us picking up random smoked butts. I have not only not been addicted to cigarettes but have not been addicted to anything...besides air, food, and water.
It starts NOW and we are Capable NOW!
Blessings
When you think you are in charge of a children decisions I highly recommend re considering that.
It is precisely this concept that separates me from most schooled children and many home schooled children. I always decided what was important and how I chose to go about doing that. I decided when to go to bed and when to get up, I decided when to brush my teeth and when not to. I decided if I wanted to spend the night at a friends and for how long it would be, I decided when I wanted to go to school or collage and what age I wanted to. I decided when I wanted to try alcohol, I decided when I wanted to try smoking, I decided when I wanted to have sex. I was constantly shouldering responsibility and making choices. This is why when I go over to a friends house the parents always tell my parents "your child is so helpful, or your child is so easy to have over" I was on month long vacations away from home by age 11. I was interested in cigarettes when I was 10. Me and my brother/sister would find old cigarette buts and pretend to smoke them. My mom decided that she would rather buy us a pack than have us picking up random smoked butts. I have not only not been addicted to cigarettes but have not been addicted to anything...besides air, food, and water.
It starts NOW and we are Capable NOW!
Blessings
Responsibility/Respect
I always grew up having the same power of choice as my parents. I was always treated as though I was capable of all adult content and I have always been so. When I was 2 I had 16 year old friends when I was 12 I had 24 year old friends when I was 18 I had 40-60 year old friends and I could always interact with any age and any subject.
My brother was watching rated R movies at 4 years old. We haven't ever had a problem with drugs, alcohol, sex, violence or anything that parents are always trying to PROTECT there kids from. Capability responsibility and awareness of choice are the best protection in the world!!!!!!!
My brother was watching rated R movies at 4 years old. We haven't ever had a problem with drugs, alcohol, sex, violence or anything that parents are always trying to PROTECT there kids from. Capability responsibility and awareness of choice are the best protection in the world!!!!!!!
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