Kids/Parents/Swearing

I don't think the idea is for the kid not to swear just because the parent/parents have baggage with it. The important thing is that one understands the power of words and even more so the intent behind words.
As for a parent that doesn't like it I suggest you let that go as its just a word and there is no sense in agreeing or filtering ones self based on stigma. Otherwise just ask that the kid doesn't swear around you or too you...even still I suggest letting it go because one of the most sacred things about family is honesty and unfiltered communication. Everything you require etiquette, filters, policy, and stuff of that nature is just another layer on the onion of pretending.
If a child wants to stop swearing then ask for punishment or something every time one swears so there is reason to stop. Easier to just stop though.

Swearing can be like drinking, smoking, or sex. The more resistance to it the more it shows up. The beautiful thing about a child compared to an adult is a child still wants and is connected with being ones self. As pressure is applied to follow someones else's idea of life, rebellion and fight come out. As an adult all that fight and passion is gone, adults just fit in and play nice because its all they know and all they have left.
I would not want this for my child.
The reality is that a free connected child will not choose something that doesn't serve one for long. Its important to be able to choose it though if it does and to be able to choose not to when its right. Process and experience are priceless and cannot be taught or forced.

Family

Me and my brother were best friends growing up. Technically he was 6 years younger than me but he was always the same age to me. We did everything together and we were treated equally. We showered together, slept together and played the rest of the day. It is un-comprehend- able to me to imagine a better friend or one I was able to get along with and enjoy more. If he were the only friend I ever had growing up I would still feel fulfilled and be thankful. No matter what anyone else thought of me I would be OK because I had my family who loved, accepted and supported me for what was important to me. Many realities come into life and its all part of it. For me family is important and even when we didn't get along or even when it wasn't enjoyable it is still extremely effecting. Like or dislike your family its effecting and shaping of who we are. That is why having a family that frees and supports each other is so beneficial to the rest of life.

Its so easy to place our preferences and points of view on others especially when they are in our family. To remember that we are all different and it is through our unique perspective and skill set that we tape into our genius. That when one is happy everything is right and when one is unhappy everything is wrong. This is why its so silly to base importance on "appearance" "status" "money" "education" or anything else that is not derived from an inner inspiration and fulfillment.

We are of course free to be and choose anything. Its all OK and we all are where we are.

Blessings on the journey


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LIVING!

I find unschoolers are confident about lots of things! When in an unschooled family, family life is quite huge. Because we are around each other so much family IS life. My sister has always loved kids and talked about having them since she could talk. I myself have not had much interest in it. For me if and when I started a family I would want to be present and have family be my life. Life is always changing though and whats important is doing whats important when its important. Just cause someone as a kid talks about having a family doesn't mean at 18 they will have a family...maybe by playing with a prospect as a kid enough of it is experienced to either not do it at all or at a much later time. That is why play and experimentation is so important. Because we can play with all of life and experience it in a way where we understand what its about and can choose consciously whats important and whats not when it is or it isn't.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH freeeeedom!
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Whats important

I think its important to base ones decisions on what feels good/fair/abundant. I think its important for individuals even kids to be responsible for what they are partaking in.
I think as a parent that if you enjoy cleaning up after your kids and making them food then that is wonderful for all involved!! If you dont anymore or are enjoying something else I think that we are all capable of preparing our food and if we arent its worth being capable of!! Same for cleaning up our dishes, or washing our cloths, finding enjoyment, figuring stuff out or paying for our car. This doesnt mean that a parent cant contribute any of those things. As kids evolve in there life so can a parent. A parent at one point can love taking care of everything.. ...food, cloths, cleaning carrying and all things important.
It is then common for a child to decide it no longer needs to be carried everywhere and wants to direct its own physical path via its hands and knees. It then decides it wants to eat more than just mothers milk. Then decides to give up milk and knees moving to feet and solid foods. Starts pooing and peing on its own while also taking care of the mess! A child may even choose to want something more than the warmth of a mothers arms.
As we evolve what we desire changes and our situation around us also changes.
It is amazing that one desires more than a mothers love and nurturing but it is fun to sail the oceans, climb the trees, eat food grown in ones own garden, massage and be massaged.... ..It is wonderful to be free as parents and as children to be free to do what feels good and be supported in that process.

"Unschooling"

Whats most important to understand about this is that "unschooling" is not a system nor a program. It is a way of life it is an understanding and engaging of life. We are all different and so are our kids. My sister has been working almost full time jobs since she was 15. I have worked only a few and not 1 in many many years. I learned to read at 9 my brother not until 14.
"unchooling" is not about right or wrong, legal or e legal, its not about shoulds, have to's and supposed to be's. Its also not about having kids with no respect or responsibility. Its about treating a child equally not less or more. Its also about an opportunity to re invent life or experience it from a new freeer perspective because of a child who has way less baggage and attachment to what is. When a being understands responsibility and respect all things work out and there is no need to deal with each situation with rules and agenda. It just falls into place nicely.
This is a deeply spiritual experience this is about real understanding and experience in life. This is about living in a way that is free and supportive of what matters. When this is what if focused upon all the crap disappears.
Blessings

Inner Guidence System

If you want more than what feels good for your child (or for your self for that matter), more than what they enjoy doing, I highly recommend reconsidering perspective, expectation and attachment. A child's inner guidance system is highly sensitive and in tune.
For it is enjoyment, freedom to choose that which is important that makes life fulfilling. While simultaneously activating genius and success.
Then as an inspiration and source of motivation this perspective can be integrated by child's example!
It definitely makes it easier knowing this as a parent, when your child isnt reading by 14 ;-) but allowing for the sake of enjoyment is important enough.